Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 5:50 PM on Sunday, December 14th, 2025
What is missing IMHO is what YOU want.
We know he want’s back. We know that you have deducted that because he didn’t file himself then maybe he still loves you.
BUT WHAT DO YOU WANT?
I would ask your attorney the following:
Are post-nups legal in the UK, and how do they work. Quick google indicates they are...
If your husband truly was willing to work towards saving the marriage, then he might be willing to sign whatever proposition your attorney had ready back in April. Your attorney could hold on to that and not file it unless you ask him to do so. That – or/and a post-nup might give you the confidence you need to possibly attempt reconciliation.
At the same time. If you are a "normal" couple with a house, mortgage, debts and some assets... there really isn’t any way he can make divorce a drawn-out multi-year process. Get your attorney to confirm that, but I’m guessing that from the day you say go (file) until you are free of him in most aspects is maybe a year. Probably less.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
